Are you and your partner bored?
Are you and your partner bored? When was the last time you did something for the first time?
Do you ever experience boredom on weekends which then turns into the occasional argument with your partner because you have nothing exciting to do when you have time togther?
Well you’re not along. Apparently from a recent survey on Childless Aussie couples a staggering 87% said they often get bored and run out of things to do on their weekends off together.
Being in a relationship myself of nine years I too can associate with this. It wasn’t until after a fantastic 5 week honeymoon that I came back and wondered why we wait for holidays to do exciting stuff?
So I turned to my newly wedded husband and said “lets make a deal; every month we need to ask each other this question ‘when was the last time you did something for the first time?”
Just give this some thought for a second…… Why do we love holidays so much? It gives you the opportunity to experience new things which creates a massive impact in your life and gives you amazing stories to tell when you get back. You also know that when on holidays you have a tendency to try things for the first time; and in turn this usually takes us slightly out of our comfort zone.
Studies show that when you step out of your comfort zone it automatically has a direct effect on increasing our self confidence ( what we exuberate) and self esteem (our internal dialogue/ self talk). No wonder we feel so darn good about holidays; we have a massive neuro associated link of massive amounts of pleasure and feeling good about ourselves too. So why wait for that occasional holiday to get that hit when you can get it more often?
On Holidays we try different experiences like hand gliding, learning to surf, whale watching, parasailing, bridge climbing, hiking, exploring and horse riding to name a few. Perhaps we should be asking ourselves this question more often when we’re not fortunate enough to get away….”When was the last time I did something for the first time?” Either as couple or even if you’re rocking the single boat!
Perhaps in our everyday rat race we get too caught up in work, then spend some time with our family and a few social drinks at best. You leave all the different and exciting activities for holidays, however everyday off is a holiday isn’t?
Here is an idea for couples who want to spice up their days off.
Idea No#1:
My husband and I made a pact that we will take turns on the first Sunday of every month to surprise each other with either
1) An activity we haven’t yet done
2) A place we haven’t yet visited
3) An experience we haven’t yet experienced in our state
That way if the budget is tight for the month we can still experience something new; you just need to get a little creative like sight seeing, bush walking, or a picnic in an area you have never been before and that will not break the bank and you still have something exciting to do and experience together for the first time.
Idea No#2:
A friend of mine created an alphabet game for the weekends off that had nothing on.
All you do is start at the letter A and think of all the things you can possibly do that starts with the letter A. Then the following “I’m bored” weekend comes along and you move onto the letter B.
As I’m sure you have heard many times before our relationships (either with ourselves and/or with a partner) take a bit of effort we have to work at them a little. My question to you is even though you probably know this and have heard it before-do you do it? What have you got to lose accept a little effort; you know the rewards will be tenfold. Isn’t your relationship worth the effort?
10 Secrets To Keeping A Happy Marriage: says:
[...] when you first started dating. Ask yourself “when’s the last time you did something for the first time together?” The main reason we love holidays is because you normally experience things together [...]
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