Finding Mr Right?
It’s amazing to witness the variety of ways women can create the hope that Mr Right exists.
I’m sure at one point in our lives we’ve all been one of these girls I mention below, some of us could be a combination of them.
Are you single? What do you do to keep your hopes high in finding Mr Right? Or what have you done previously in the hope of finding the right man…and there is the one thing most women have in common… HOPE. That one word helps us keep the female spirits strong and alive.
The List Lady
The girl who creates the “List” – there are many females that create a list of qualities that her Mr PERFECT must have. She designs it in the hope by doing this it creates the universal vibrations in attracting him her way. The List lady keeps her special request in a safe place where she can go back to it anytime to review it or add to it. It’s never in a spot that people can easily find. She may share it with her closest girlfriend but it’s treasured, kept close to her chest, as she fears some may place judgment on her for being silly or her that her expectations are too high.
Advice for the “List Lady”:
It’s great to have a list and set some standards because if we don’t have standards in our life then we may as well settle for the guy who is no good for our self esteem and self worth.
However ensure you are being realistic with what’s on your list and open to being a little flexible. If the shoe was on the other foot- what if he has a list too and you don’t meet all of his requirements; wouldn’t you want him to be a little flexible too? Have a willingness to negotiate as sometimes there could be a diamond in the rough just waiting to be shined up to sparkle. Some woman have on their list must have nice teeth, a non smoker; these are all things that can be fixed or stopped…..not from you trying to change him though from him wanting to improve himself for you. If you are willing to forfeit something’s off your list you may be pleasantly surprised with whom you attract; perhaps the man who is already around but you have your blind fold on the whole time because he didn’t have straight teeth but find out later he has a huge heart.
I had a friend who had on her list her perfect man is a millionaire- but like I said to her “well do you think your his idea of a millionaire wife?” remember if you have a strict guideline of what you expect remember he might have one too. Be open to having some room to move so it’s not just him that’s expected to adjust.
The Vision Board Girl
The vision board girl sits down one night totally psyched up for an inspirational search. She has all her tools ready for action; a glass of wine, her computer, printer and favourite magazine plus a pair of scissors and glue as she takes clippings of all the things she wants in her life and sticks them to a piece of cardboard
Now because she hasn’t got the man of her dreams she also cuts out pictures and/or body parts of celebrities that would make up Mr Right…from looks to personalities and attitudes. She may even only cut out the bodies without the face, or it might be some piece of masculine clothing or perhaps her favourite male perfume bottle. Either way, it all gets stuck onto this inspiration board. If it’s a lady who wants a family, she’ll also add baby clothes, perhaps the house she wants to live in with Mr Right and again its all done with this wonderful mindset called HOPE.
The Spiritualist
This lady believes in the laws attraction. She has probably read ‘The Secret’ or reads books on spiritual guidance. She is into the alternative way of living; she’s into wellness, yoga, vegetarian food, the power of the mind, Karma, balance and harmony. She meditates on how grateful she is for the universe bringing the man into her life (even though she doesn’t actually have him yet) and sits there generating the positive feelings of how she would truly feel if he were already with her in the hope the vibrations will one day be strong enough to bring their two souls together.
She is sometimes confused in why the universe is continually teaching her lessons with the wrong men and what else does she need to learn that she can’t learn from Mr Right. So she continues to burn her inscents and rub on her essential oils to keep her mood uplifted and continue on this spiritual journey.
The Self Help Book Basher.
This Girl is desperate to find her man and secretly thinks “it must be me, how can I fix me”. She just wants to hang onto a man long enough to experience a descent relationship with a real man. She is frustrated, tired and ready to fix it with the tools and inspiration from an author with is highly rated.
Her book is her escape as it generates feelings of confidence, motivation and positive self talk…that is until she accidentally goes off course with the wrong man and feels the pain all over again. Back to the book for more empowerment, hoping the next book will give her the answer.
Walk into her room and she will have a library of relationship self help books, and she will be more than happy to lend you one, as its make her realsie she’s not the only one out there searching and it justifies her search by helping others similar to her.
The Tigress
This lady gets herself out there; she is like a tiger on the hunt. Her belief is “I won’t find a man sitting at home” so she jazzes herself up with some clothes that bring attention to the twins (her boobs) or her smokin’ hot legs. This girl isn’t shy in putting herself out there, when she walks in the room she gives good strong eye contact to the males that visually qualify and a cheeky grin to the ones that might not stand a chance but it feels good for her ego anyway. She heads straight to the bar grabs a drink then does a lap in her sassy heals before she finds a seat with a view and always has a wing buddy –who is another single girlfriend who is a little shyer. She enjoys that first glass of wine as it takes the edge off and helps the true tigress to unveil.
At first sight it might look like she is either an easy target, strong or perhaps superficial. But if you break her down and take away the hard shell, the tigress is just as hopeful as the rest. She’s highly emotional and thrives on a good deep and meaningful conversation.
Now Its Your Turn….
……So back to my question at the start; Are you single- what do you do to keep your spirits high in the search for looking for love? Or what have you done in your past previously in the hope of finding the right man?
I’d love to hear from you…respond now and help other ladies out there.
Lilian Mikhail says:
WOW….that was a great read, if i did not know better i would have thought you were writing about me! Great advice, keep it coming and thanks.
January 14th, 2010 at 6:08 pm