Women and Dating Online
One thing women do when dating online, is they get so caught up and act as if it’s truly dating when the fact is…it’s not really dating. Women can forget this and it can cause great stress if they don’t hear back from the person online again. People forget you need to have a engaging communication for a relationship to really build and truly grow. This is best achieved through using all your five senses and to do this you’ll need to be face to face. The best way to think about online dating, is to think about it as an online meeting.
Try these Rules of the road for Successful Online Dating:
Rule 1: Remember men and women are very different; we have different needs, different desires and different ways of communicating.
Rule 2: Don’t put all your eggs in the one basket and give full exclusivity. When dating the opposite sex women have a tendency to dedicate their focus on just one man at a time and her thought process is to work out if he is ‘the one’. Where men on the other hand have many different dates online, this is part of their natural selection process. Men treat the decision of who he really wants to be with like a task. Once a male has made his decision, then he’ll make the decision of full exclusivity which might not be until you’ve meet face to face a few times. So women open up the lines of communications a little more and don’t hang your hopes on just one guy- finding the right partner can sometimes be a numbers game…otherwise you might miss a few gems on the way.
Rule 3: Date around /sleep around: Once you’ve walked into the bedroom it’s hard to go back and a lot of intimacy or past issues can get stirred up if it doesn’t work out. So make sure you take this step very wisely ladies…only become intimate once you really know you’re ready to deal with him if he pulls away after the act. Studies show that not only does the act of sex happen faster when a couple have been dating online first but it also creates a record amount of break ups too. This is usually because we feel so comfortable with the illusion of the person online and once you are face to face the communication makes you think you’re close. However intimacy, which only happens through togetherness and being face to face, can quickly become a non affair for both parties.
Unfortunately for men sex, can either seal the deal or lose the attraction as their natural innate behaviour of hunting has been achieved…because of this the desire can be lost. That is until the next female that comes along.
Rule 4: Like attracts like: When we are in a positive state of mind and feeling good about ourselves we attract those types of people into our lives, and on the flip side when you are feeling negative you tend to attract those types of people into your life. Simple but true!
CAUTION: Ensure you have healed from your last relationship and not going out there with the mindset of; “ I hate dating” , “Who’s going to love me”, “The next guy will probably dump me anyway”, because you’ll come across that way without even realising and you’ll receive a similar outcome and the downward spiral will continue. Choose to break it!
Question: Can you heel this while dating?? ABSOLUTELY- jumping online is a great way to start boosting your self esteem, also giving you good practice building the communication skills and helping break down the negative thoughts you had in the past. Once you’re ready to take the online dating to the next level, your head space will be right for face to face and then if it feels right, intimacy.
Live, love and Learn,
Annette Lackovic
Some of this great information is from Ask Mars Venus; Experts in dating, marriage, and relationship advice