Relationships
The Perfect Relationship….well for me it is!
A good friend of mine asked me what do you think is the secret in having a happy 10 year relationship that you guys have? Well besides being blown away with a left of field question, I was also flattered. She was right though; I do have a beautiful marriage with my husband and thought ok I will do my very best in sharing what makes it work for us.
So I went on to answer her question best way I could.
Tip #1
Always treat each other with the same grace and patience that you had when you first started dating. My husband told me a great example of patience in a relationship. He said “If we were dating and were in the car about to leave to go out for lunch and you said you ‘forgot your jacket’ I would stop the car and tell you “no problem run up and grab it as you might get cold”. As years go by and couples start to get comfortable with each other, patience and willingness to impress each other has a tendency to die as we have now achieved our goal (having a relationship) . Fast track a few years ahead and if the exact same situation happened again with you forgetting your jacket I could respond and say “ now we’re going to be late”, or “we dont have time to get it- you’ll be fine it’s not that cold” the reaction may be completely different.
The moral to the story is treat each other the way you would when you were first dating. Treat them the same as the person you would like to impress, treat each other with the same manners, the same patience and the same optimistic view of a situation.
Tip #2
Give up dead routines
After the initial excitement of being together we all tend to fall into some routines in our relationships. One being that we think we know what the other one is thinking or feeling, some also feel that it doesn’t matter if they come home late, don’t make the effort to look as good or they start to take up new hobbies or spend more time with their friends. Many couples break down due to looking for instant gratification or fulfillment from outside sources as the relationship has become stale and boring. In time the relationship will start to fade away. How do you ensure it doesn’t happen to you?
Advice :
Snap out of ruts; dedicate a night to plan some exciting things to do that are both inexpensive and some that may require a little future saving.
“New stimulus- new spark”. Why do so many couples love going to a hotel…..its a new stimuli…its a guaranteed stamp that there will be some sparks flying while they’re there.
It doesn’t have to a hotel, it could be as simple as taking a walk to breath in the fresh air one week night after dinner instead of the routine of sitting on the couch being glued to the TV.
Try Something New
Many Relationships can quietly go stale in the bedroom; so to avoid that try looking it with new eyes.
A lot of what’s appealing about connecting with people online or randomly with perfect strangers is the allure of something unknown or fresh. Try something you’ve never done before, or something you’ve been curious about or even something you’ve never even heard of before now!
Explore new erogenous zones on each other, be open and willing. By seeing each other through a fresh perspective or exploring something new together, you can definitely add excitement to your relationship.
Women and Dating Online
One thing women do when dating online, is they get so caught up and act as if it’s truly dating when the fact is…it’s not really dating. Women can forget this and it can cause great stress if they don’t hear back from the person online again. People forget you need to have a engaging communication for a relationship to really build and truly grow. This is best achieved through using all your five senses and to do this you’ll need to be face to face. The best way to think about online dating, is to think about it as an online meeting.
Try these Rules of the road for Successful Online Dating:
Guys Guide To Buying Lingerie
Don’t look like a fool when it comes to buying Her Lingerie here’s an easy 3 step guide to follow:
1) Know Her Size: Did you know that every woman has an underwear draw and it’s normally the top draw, as its easy access for items she uses every day. Guys, get her size right, if it’s too small she will put it on and feel fat. If it’s too big she’ll be disappointed that you went to the effort but now she has to let you down by telling you it doesn’t fit (she might even feel you think she’s fat because of picking too big a size…and that’s the last thing you’ll want!).
By you knowing her size YOU’RE THE MAN and that scores big time for you taking notice! The size is always found on the back strap hook area, it’s a number and a letter e.g. 12C . The number 12 is the back size and C is the cup size of breast. Did you know there is a general rule of thumb “If you don’t have the exact size, a woman can go up a back size and down a cup size or vice versa down a back size and up a cup size and it generally can fit”. So this little tip helps you to increase your chance of getting it right!
2) Put Your Fantasies Away: If you’re buying a present for her make sure it is for her not for you to fulfil a sexual fantasy or score for the night.
Get the Personality right: Is she’s a flirty gal/girl who loves feminine silks and lace with pretty colours to make her feel like a classy woman or is she a funky comfort queen who loves the cotton full bums or boy-shorts with the mix and match style bras? There’s also the wild child who likes to tie you up and if that’s the case feel free to grab the latex crutchless thong and gimp mask…but definitely not for the Heidi’s of the group she’ll run the other way.
5 Low Cost Ideas To Wow Them This Valentine’s Day ?
Here are 5 quick steps to wow them on valentines day.
1) Wake up in the morning with a red ribbon tied around your neck like you are the gift and have a love note written especially for them.
2) Start the day by inviting your partner in with you for a shower together – while washing them: Ladies-Tell your man how much you admire, approve of, and appreciate him. Men- tell her the depth of your devotion, respect for your relationship with her, and understanding of her needs.
3) Warm up a body lotion or massage oil in the microwave and give the present of touch with a long massage with quiet music in the background.
4) Put a red rose in their car along with a hand written invitation. Tell them to Dress in something really special tonight. Create the atmosphere by lighting some candles and play their favourite music. Pamper them completely with the food they love, and the rest is limited only by your imagination!
Joke- Gravy Serving Spoon
Brian Hester invited his mother over for dinner. During the course of the meal, Brian’s mother couldn’t help but keep noticing how beautiful Brian’s roommate, Stephanie, was.
Mrs. Hester had long been suspicious of a relationship between Brian and Stephanie, and this had only made her more curious.
Over the course of the evening, while watching the two react, Mrs. Hester started to wonder if there was more between Brian and Stephanie than met the eye.
Reading his mom’s thoughts, Brian volunteered, “I know what you must be thinking, but I assure you Stephanie and I are just roommates.”
About a week later, Stephanie came to Brian saying, “Ever since your mother came to dinner, I’ve been unable to find the beautiful silver gravy ladle. You don’t suppose she took it, do you?”
Intimacy- How it improves your SEX Life?
Intimacy is the fibre in our brain that binds us to the people we love, and is built on time, investment, and honest communication. In a healthy long-term relationship, intimacy increases with time and many men and women are fortunate to have a lover who is also their best friend. Sex and romance are crucial for long-term intimacy. The stronger the sexual connection, the stronger the emotional intimacy will be. It is important to nurture and feed your relationship both emotionally and sexually.
The sex and intimacy cycle
Sex and intimacy are closely linked in our brains, but men and women respond differently to intimacy. Many men can’t feel intimate with their partner unless their sex life is satisfying, but many women can’t enjoy sex without intimacy. For men, sex feeds intimacy, and for women, intimacy feeds sex. These sexual differences can be disruptive to your relationship, so it is important to nourish your sex life with intimacy.
The Point System
The point system:
At an unconscious level, both genders run their own little points system; but what if the points system of a woman, is completely different to that of the male? How on earth are you meant to win and enjoy the game if you don’t know each other’s rules?
Men love feeling like they can make their partner happy and the woman might not realise he’s making the effort. Dr John Grey (Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus) says “Many men think they can’t seem to keep their partners happy”. When couples feel like they can’t consistently stay happy, they become insecure about the relationship and begin questioning it?
Here is the rule book:
NINE WORDS WOMEN USE:
NINE WORDS WOMEN USE :
(1) Fine :
Example: “fine then”
This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you
need to shut up.
(2) Five Minutes:
If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is
only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to
watch the game before helping around the house.
(3) Nothing:
Example “no, nothing is wrong”
This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be
on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
(4) Go Ahead:
This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It!