Men: How to Keep the Boomchickawawa in a relationship

When was the last time you did something to improve or maintain your relationship???....you know, to spice things up a bit? 

Guys, did you know that all us females get turned on mentally first, then visually, as opposed to all you men who are more visual creatures.

For us it's the effort behind the act, the emotion you show, the words you express and the foreplay you create that helps build her sexual energy the quickest. You must remember, with women it starts with the internal arousal we mentally need to be put in the mood, where as for men it's an external (visual stimulation creates the arousal).

When you first start dating you make the effort to show her how much you like her by taking her to places to win her heart; e.g. out for lunch, picnic's, movies, sending her flowers and remember those mushy text messages...Nothing seems like an effort for you, so motivated and excited to make her happy.

Then the relationship starts getting intimate and you feel it's important to prove yourself in the bedroom, going to great lengths to pull out every foreplay move known to man. Being totally aware of how she reacts to each move, then banking it in your memory knowing which are keepers.

Not wanting to make it look like you're in it just for the sex, you make an effort in giving her a relaxing massage with some sweet smelling body products or cook her the one special meal you know...your famous spaghetti bolognaise.

You always comment on her sexy lingerie and sometimes even buy her something to wear in the bedroom.

You make an effort to not throw your dirty socks and undies on the ground and your bed is always sort of made (quick tip, pulling the covers up over the pillow doesn't make the grade). You offer to do the washing up at her house after she has cooked you dinner; You're happy to sit and talk over dinner, even though Friday night football is on television and even though its easy to have it playing in the background, you resist the temptation; You even remember to put the toilet seat down!

Now it's one, two or even five years down the track, how often do you go to those great lengths now? You've moved in together, perhaps even married?

It's like we get so comfortable with our partners, becoming so relaxed in all areas; Sex – you're happy to make it just a quickie; Dinner - you see if she feels like cooking, otherwise you're happy to grab a Pizza and when she does cook you now leave the football on or regularly run over and keep checking the score.  You leave the toilet seat up; the dirty socks and undies are on the ground which you must think they miraculously find their own way to the washing machine. 

A lot of relationships lose their spark as years go by as the lack of effort & motivation to keep it alive dies.

To keep the Boomchickawawa try asking yourself some questions to keep proactive in your relationship  & sex life:

• When was the last time I seduced her with a massage with some sweet smelling body product.
• When was the last time I cooked her favorite dinner and really treated her like she was in her own five star restaurant with candles, wine, music for atmosphere and even wearing nice clothes for the event ?
• When was the last time I gave her something sexy to wear?
• When was the last time I sent a special gift to her work, making her feel not only spoilt but appreciated? View our Sure Thing! 

Guys, if you want to keep the Boomchickawawa in your relationship - What Women Want - then try using some of the above ideas, don't be amazed when its reciprocated. The law of Reciprocity is when you give to another, then at an unconscious level the receiver will feel indebted to return the act of a similar favor.

It's simple "You get what you give."

Just remember the act must be mutually rewarding. A successful relationship requires that both parties benefit from investing in the relationship.

(Want more-check out What Women Want)

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